May you rest in peace, Mr. Michael Jackson

Michael Joseph Jackson (August 29, 1958 – June 25, 2009)

I was immensely saddened by the passing of Michael Jackson. A brilliant musician and dancer, he contributed in so many ways to the world and tried to make it a better place. Often ridiculed and criticised during the last few years for his elusiveness and eccentricity, I don't think the world was fair to him.

What's wrong with being different?

Absolutely nothing.

Michael Jackson was far from perfect, just like the rest of us, but he was a good man, generous, compassionate, and a good father, very loving and protective, doing his best to shield his children from the vicious scrutiny of the public eye, one that examined him on a daily basis.

And though he had millions of fans, it is sad to know that he was often depicted negatively in the media spotlight and did not get enough recognition or love for who he needed to be ...

MJ, may you rest in peace. My heart and soul goes out to you and your children ... Thank you for being exactly the person you were, thank you for your love, and thank you for so unselfishly sharing your genius with us.

Love and light,

The Irongoddess



"Man In The Mirror"

I'm Gonna Make A Change,
For Once In My Life
It's Gonna Feel Real Good,
Gonna Make A Difference
Gonna Make It Right . . .

As I, Turn Up The Collar On My
Favourite Winter Coat
This Wind Is Blowin' My Mind
I See The Kids In The Street,
With Not Enough To Eat
Who Am I, To Be Blind?
Pretending Not To See
Their Needs
A Summer's Disregard,
A Broken Bottle Top
And A One Man's Soul
They Follow Each Other On
The Wind Ya' Know
'Cause They Got Nowhere
To Go
That's Why I Want You To
Know

I'm Starting With The Man In
The Mirror
I'm Asking Him To Change
His Ways
And No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change
(Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change)
(Na Na Na, Na Na Na, Na Na,
Na Nah)

I've Been A Victim Of A Selfish
Kind Of Love
It's Time That I Realize
That There Are Some With No
Home, Not A Nickel To Loan
Could It Be Really Me,
Pretending That They're Not
Alone?

A Willow Deeply Scarred,
Somebody's Broken Heart
And A Washed-Out Dream
(Washed-Out Dream)
They Follow The Pattern Of
The Wind, Ya' See
Cause They Got No Place
To Be
That's Why I'm Starting With
Me
(Starting With Me!)

Yes, I will have your baby!

Recent letter received on Lavalife:

I am very attractive to Asian women. I have a good head on my shoulders and would like to have children with an Asian woman. I have a picture if you are serious. If this interests you, get back.

His online dating profile:

Hi ladies:

I must confess, that I do love the companionship of a confident woman. You must be from the Ottawa area and are in need of some passion added to your life once again. I am a very attractive male looking for one sexually charged female for an adventure. I am dating, but want to try something different FWB. I am open to women of a different race or of different ethnic background (never been with either). If you have had children that does not scare me off, I love kids and want some of my own. I do work Shift work in the evenings and am most available during the morning or day.

I am looking for someone safe. Must be clean, very hygienic and loves to cuttle. If you are over 45 years old, please move on.What sets me apart from all the other horny guys on here? Well, I respect and actually listen too what a woman wants and desires are.I am easy to talk too and will not play head games with you.

Send me an email and I guarantee a response. We can chat as long as you wish until you feel comfortable to move on to the next level. I also have a profile in Intimate section if you want more information on me.

Hope to hear back from you.

My good male friend's take on the above letter and profile:

I am very attractive to all women. I have a good head on my dick and can practice making many children with all women. I have picture of my good head if you are serious.

I say, you can't find great love without great risk. My email response:

Yes, I am definitely interested. Please send me your backstage pass.

So here he is, the future father of my children!

Native American Prayer

When it FINALLY hit me that I would lose my mother to an incurable cancer, my heart and soul cried out in anguish and that "little girl" inside of me, with insecure, selfish, little girl needs of love and affection, awakened and wailed.

I realised how much I still needed my mother.

And though I knew it would be difficult, the inevitability was that I would have to let her go, ready or not. So, for every day that I still had my mother, I loved her as deeply and tenderly as I could.

Some people have bitterness and resentment towards their parents during their adult lives. I felt none of this towards my mother and realised that life was too short for blame. Could haves, would haves, should haves. None of this meant anything in the face of death. No point in ruminating over what wasn't perfect, for the Universe knows I was far from it.

I dedicate the following to my beloved mother, Mei Ling, who passed away peacefully on April 24, 2009 after a courageous three-year battle with cancer.

I will always love and miss you, Mom ...

Native American Prayer

I give you this one thought to keep
I am with you still – I do not sleep
I am a thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glints on snow
I am the sunlight on ripened grain
I am the gentle autumn rain
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight
I am the soft stars that shine at night
Do not think of me as gone
I am with you still – in each new dawn.

Everything in life is transitory

Sometimes it's alright to let yourself feel sad ... spend time with friends ... distract yourself with funny films ... and then still feel sad when you go home.

Everything in life is transitory and no matter how hard the day has been, take a deep breath and know that tomorrow will be just a bit better. Then before you know it, you'll be filled with joy again and the sharp barbs of pain that hurt so deeply will have dulled themselves to faint pin pricks.

A kind gentle soul wrote this to me to help lift my heart with regards to my good friend, Michael Rudder:

"And the tears that flow from your eyes, dear Bonnie, give birth to Arya Tara in your heart, please -- she emanated from a tear
That the Lord of Compassion,
Noble Avalokiteshvara, wept when He saw suffering beings in this world -- now you are
That tear drop too -- she protects beings from fear, Noble Arya Tara, and tramples down with one foot all evil in this world."

And with those words, I felt her embrace reverberate through my soul as I cried and then for a little while afterwards, felt reprieve from my grief-stricken state and refilled with strength and hope. Thank you, sweet Gaby for your love ...

I think I'm in love ...

So, now taking into account "The Law of Attraction", I decided to attempt a second foray into Lavalife this year and started by modifying my dating profile.

* No instant messaging please, I prefer your sweet words in a letter *

I figured that this was a much better start than the profile I posted during my last foray into the cyber dating world.

Here's an absolutely wonderful letter I received recently ... I think he's THE ONE.

BLUELAGOON67

subject
perfect 4 u

message
you have got to be kidding me . who the hell you think you are ''a real goddess'' '' Caps as well as punctuate and spell properly gets you bonus points'' You are a perfect image of a fake profile with your random picture in the subway very original.

'' I'm not asking you to be my mirror'' that is the only thing you are not asking in a man the rest you are qualifiyng and judging man , again who the fuck you think u are .What u will find is another fake like u . Not a real MAN.

enjoy my spelling mistakes

And I would never cook for you .


And here's his profile:

"hey wat up"

In My Own Words
Hey what's up, Shout as loud as you possibly can,make your voice bounce off planets.dont just leave a mark,leave a dent.
Be everything you ever wanted to be ,dont let others rule your life,live your life as if it was your last day. ,............................... ................................ ................................ ................................ ... ................................ ................................ ................................ ................................ .............................

.

Single man looking for threesomes or getting whipped !!! Oh shit ! I'm on Lavalife not on that dirty site.

Single man still single !! Wonder why??

Don't let my sexy body deceive you I got some intelligents under my curls.Send me a message of any mathimatical Quiz under 1ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo o, .... got to fix that ''o '' button it 's always stuck , under 10 and I will reply the right answer and more.

enjoy Lava .

The Facebook Break-Up

On the popular social networking platform Facebook, we can indicate "relationship status" and have several choices:

Single
In a relationship
Engaged
Married
It's complicated
In an open relationship

Changes of relationship status are indicated by whole or broken hearts and listed on the "mini-feed". Do these status updates and red hearts mean anything? And what does the Facebook public think about these?

I was recently engaged to Nestor D. Dinosaur and received an e-mail via Facebook congratulating me on said event, though my friend also asked if this could be a joke (because of the name). No ... no joke ... but I'm surprised my friend's excitement didn't cause her to click on the link to see the handsome red and green face of my future husband.

Nestor and I have since parted ways amicably, but I see that he is not quite yet over me, as he is still listed as "Engaged". (Nestor: That's alright ... I will ALWAYS love you ...)

I have a friend who recently listed himself as married ... to his own brother. I wonder if anyone noticed that one? I've also seen this same friend engaged, married, and broken up all in the same day.

Another friend, totally enthralled with her new relationship, happily decided to announce their "love" through Facebook ... This new couple then listed themselves as "In a relationship" until one day, after a particular lover's spat, she discovered he'd changed his relationship status and in fact, no longer even had one.

Boyfriend: "Yes, we're still dating but I don't want certain people on Facebook to know."

Hmm, interesting ... Not comfortable with this new turn of events and his recent treatment of her, she called me up for some "girl talk".

Irongoddess: But have you talked to him about how you feel?

Girlfriend: No, he's been avoiding me and I'm sick of it. I've given him lots of time and space to be in his cave and I don't want to be here when he comes out. Look at my Facebook status.

"SINGLE"

Irongoddess: "Oh my gosh, does he know?"

Girlfriend: "No, I can't be bothered having THE TALK."

Bing! And there you have it, folks, the Facebook Break-Up!

Personally, I'd love to be in a relationship with Bamsen Bacchus, a super cute Swedish bear. Recently, I saw him listed as "In an open relationship". I wondered if Facebook would allow more than one linking to those in an open relationship and thought about asking him out, but dang, Bamsen's status recently changed to "It's complicated".

Sigh ... I guess Bamsen and I are not yet meant to be ... but I'll keep watching my Facebook and hope that one day I'll see a broken little red heart in my news with the words:

"Bamsen Bacchus is no longer in a relationship."